today marks three months on the farm, and eight and a half in Texas.
the journey has been every emotion imaginable, and I want to try to capture how i'm feeling in this moment because I know that months from now i will feel differently. hopefully better, hopefully more settled, and more balanced.
the anxiety is real. it's reached a level where I have to acknowledge it.
the expectation i've place on myself for the garden, the beginning of flower growing, on sustainable living (chickens, bees, veggies) is a lot. the projects that have been started and not finished due to contractors leaving us high and dry, or small business people getting paid for most of the work and leaving the last 10% has taken a huge toll on me. i just want work completed. i want to be able to plan, to budget, to execute and to celebrate the finished work.
the time that has been spent to start, stop and pick up a project again has been frustrating and a learning experience for both M & I. to have to manage a professional business owner to the levels we've had to has made me crazy and caused some friction in our home.
i know we have time. we have a lifetime to be here on this land or however long we have. and i know what we do with it will change. this is iteration one, the initial plan, the first go round. we will learn the seasons, the things that work and things that don't. but i'm eager and excited and i've seen it all in my head for over a year. i have to be patient and live in the moment, remind myself to not take on too much (which at least once a week it feels like we have).
the anxiety builds.
as an introvert it's hard for me to develop new relationships. the move to SF came with people we already knew. people M knew from living in the Bay area. the move here to Austin was a blank slate for both of us. i have some work colleagues i knew, but nothing deeper than work relationships. i've always been satisfied with a handful of good friends, and as i get older i think i'm getting more selective. i'm in a brand new environment, around people who haven't ever been on a plane, haven't eaten or tried the kinds of food/wine we love, people who dress, shop and have interests that are a direct opposite of me. i feel alone, isolated and like finding "my people" may be harder that i envisioned. i am drained by going out, and socializing in large groups of strangers terrifies me. but i'm holding on to hope that there are women and couples not too far away that we will connect with. people closer to our age, our career length and learned life lessons. i have nothing against the people we've met so far – the twenty something's who are still finding their way, and who look at us like what we've achieved just happened over night. nothing against them, but also not feeling very much in common with them.
anxiety is fear. i recognize that. i see my fear and meet it with deep breathes and patience, and tears and sleepless nights. i'm trying to embrace this moment for what it is, because maybe it is what im supposed to be experiencing.
time. give myself time. let things unfold as they are supposed to. and find a way to accomplish things in a manageable manner.
time. take my time. organize the wants vs the needs. and give it time.
these are growing pains…..
3 thoughts on “three months…”
V & I miss you. We felt that way when we hit the PNW. You and M are strong. You’re about to get your second wind. Slow down and breathe. 💕
Oh, NatNat. You’re killing me! I feel your pain, but knowing you and seeing all you’ve accomplished over the past 24 years? I’ve little doubt you’re going to break through, overcome, and, once again – outshine all others.
Baby steps, one day/obstacle at a time, pace yourself, take time for yourself, blah blah blah – you know the cliches. Also? If this doesn’t work out as planned, would it be the end of the world? Or another chapter, another lesson, something which would add to your already remarkable story?
Hang in there, chin up and let me know when you have time, room and *reasonable* weather for visitors!
Much love for both you and M, from both Scooter and me.
Thinking of you guys and sending love from us!! I was cleaning out my emails and re-read your post. I certainly remember our move to Seattle when I did not know a single soul other than Dotcy. It was a challenge, but now I’m able to look back and see the beauty that unfolded from that party of 2!!